Getting over a breakup is never an easy thing, especially if you were the one who was dumped. We may tell ourselves that we’re over him, that we're better off and that he'll never find another woman who loves him like we do - but deep down inside, we miss him. We might even want him back. These feelings fresh off a breakup are perfectly normal, and it's okay to admit that we’re not over him just yet.
But if months and years go by and your feelings are still a little fuzzy, here are a few ways you can tell if you’re still in love with your ex…
You Think About Him All the Time
This is obvious, but duh…you still think about him all the time. Most likely if you’re broken up, you don’t see each other anymore ��" but “out of sight” doesn’t necessarily mean “out of mind.” Actually, the fact that you have no idea what he’s doing, where he is or who he’s with might cause you to think of him that much more.
You Can’t Date Anyone Else
One sign that you’re not over your ex is that you find it hard to date other men. You constantly compare everyone you meet to your ex, and the new guy always falls short. It could be that you set some imaginary, unattainable bar that no other man can reach because you’re unwilling to give him a chance. If you idolized your ex and thought he was the perfect guy, no man will ever measure up, no matter how great he is.
You’re Upset He’s With Someone Else
It sucks when your ex is over the breakup faster than you are ��" but learning that he’s dating someone else is something else entirely, and it stings ��" like a slap in the face. If you see your ex out with a new girl, and you don’t even flinch, then you’re over it. But if seeing him with another woman tears your insides out and you’re jealous, it’s a sign that the love you felt for him might still be there.
You Still Frequent Your Old Stomping Grounds
If you find yourself getting take-out from a favorite restaurant that you both frequented, or hanging out in spots that you both visited regularly, you may be subconsciously hoping to run into him. Hell, you may even be doing it on purpose ��" placing yourself in social situations where you know you’ll see him so you can stay present in his life. So you put on your freak’um dress and “accidentally” bump into him, hoping he’ll be reminded of how beautiful and wonderful you are and want you back. If you’re going through all this trouble, you’re definitely not over him.
Jealousy and Mind Games
Okay, if you’re an immature gal, you may resort to jealousy tactics to try to win him back ��" and it’s crazy. If you try to make him jealous by posting pics on Instagram of you and some new, unsuspecting fool in order to make his blood boil, you may be disappointed when it has no effect, and you look like a clown. You may think you’re getting back at him, but it’s really all a manipulation maneuver in order to get his attention because deep down inside, you still love him and want him back.
